We all talk a lot about what cancer has done to our lives in one shape or another. The pain, loss of employment, our body image, insurance, bankruptcy, self-esteem, and a hundred and one other negative impacts. Some folks even think cancer was a blessing–but not many. (And certainly not me.)
Yet when it comes to intimacy we suddenly become very quiet. I won’t say that it is nonexistent, but most of us don’t talk much about what–if any–effect breast cancer has had on our sex lives. And that’s just heterosexually. I have found next to nothing that explores the experiences of gay men and lesbian women with breast cancer, let alone problems of intimacy after the fact.
So who is doing it? Anyone? As a matter of fact, someone is and I want to get the word out about this important work.
AnneMarie Ciccarella, who went through her own breast cancer experience and became a serious activist on behalf of women, is setting her sights on breast cancer and intimacy. Share Those Moments is the conduit through which AnneMarie is seeking your stories about your experiences with breast cancer and other gynecological cancers and intimacy.
Partnering with a respected gynecological oncologist, their shared intent is to compile as much information as possible in an effort to explore the topic in depth and find patterns and shared experiences. Or, as AnneMarie notes, “find out what is really happening behind closed doors (and in our minds too).” Both hope to compile this work in a book on the subject that will serve as a resource for those who have gone through these disease experiences and their partners.
If you would, please take a few moments to explore the project and add your voice to those already participating. It will help the project. It will help you. It will help us.